Several months ago my friends Karen and Joe told me that one of their travelling friends wanted to have sex with me. I've only hung out with them a few times and I told them I was a virgin and wanted to be in love when I had sex. The past week him and his girlfriend came over and when it was just him he told me he still wanted to have sex with me and said his girlfriend was okay with it (which, she really is okay with it). I told him I was interested but I was still a virgin and wasn't sure about it, so we dropped the conversation.

I feel like I am holding myself back. I do want to be in love the first time I have sex, but I'm passing up so many opportunities and it's so hard for me to fall in love. He's an honest, sincere guy, very attractive, very tall, thin, and I'm pretty sure he'd have a nice ****. But, I'm not in love with him and he's a traveler so I'd only see him a few times a year. I'm tired of being a virgin. We're both consenting adults, and there's nothing wrong with sex without love. But I'm not sure if I'm okay with that. I really wish I knew what to do.