My kids are 10,8,4,&3 (3 girls & 1 boy). They are so far beyond "out of control" that I don't know where to start! I have tried everything I can think of under the sun. Time-out; consistency; take away privileges; grounding; spanking...

My husband and I are NOT a "united front". He thinks it's funny to tell them to make smart mouthed comments when I tell them to do something, or to tell them to tell me to do it myself when I tell them do something, or to tell them simply to tell me "no" when I tell them to do something. He has taught them to have NO respect for me whatsoever. They run over me like a doormat. Any time I try to discuss this with him he tells me that I'm just being to sensitive and to quit *******ng. They listen to him. They don't question him. All he has to do is look at them and they're running to do what he's said.

I am at my wits end!!! How do I get my kids to respect me and LISTEN to me??? At this point, I honestly feel like walking our and never looking back!