hey. does she say how he responds to her when she says that she loves him? does he take it well? i guess he does or she wouldn't be telling the group. i'm always amazed at how different people can be! some people are able to say what is on their mind and others (like me) find that so very much harder. sometimes i can find it quite liberating to hear what other people have said / done. hear what they do and hear about the consequences of that and that can give me courage to say / do things that i thought i never would.

do you know what the jealousy is about? is it about her (seemingly) not caring so much of what other people (incl therapist) think of her? does she have a bubbly tone so it comes across as half joking half serious?

i've been in a similar position once. and someone kept going on about how they loved the person. transference. it would make me cringe inside too. not sure why. maybe because... if you tell them then they will hurt / abuse you. thats my experience of it at any rate. if they think they can hurt you then of course they can. they don't need to know. and i just wanted her to SHUT UP. it might be worth trying to talk to him about how you felt about her saying that. maybe. up to you i guess. i'd find that easier than talking about my feelings for him, though.