I relate and admit that while sometimes it is ok to let T do it (as for me, when I just have too much going on and need her to sort it out), it is also scary most of the times. Plus, after giving them so much power, I pay the consequences when things start to fall apart or when T makes a false step - which has happened very very rarely, but when it did, like in last session, it made things bad, because I put so much trust in t that I struggle to handle disappointment.