I have never yet met a therapist who is even remotely willing to be involved to that degree . I'd give an awful lot to find a T who was willing to guide me and give me options and take control of the sessions. Be a stronger wiser other in other words. Don't exist in my experience.

Monalise I'm sorry you've had bad experiences with Ts who tried to control you, but it sounds like you've learnt from that and are stronger and wiser yourself now