I did explain to my dad what they thought he said, and he said he did not recall saying that and said 'why would I say something like that', but thought maybe he may have said something that was misunderstood. As for now its probably best if I stay out of it....I think time to cool off is good but if either talk to me about it and want my imput I would tell them my perspective. Also I've gotten stuck in trying to help people with their issues to the point of obsessing and then doing more harm than good while neglecting myself.