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Originally Posted by Lauliza
I imagine countertranference is present in most relationships between T and client. They discuss with their supervisor, not the client because it is about them and therapy is about you. Also, depending on what the cointertransference is about, it could be misinterpreted or create confusion, etc. It doesn't mean they can't show you that they like you - but that's not transference. If you remind a T of their ex spouse or a family member for example, that is their process to deal with - it doesn't have anything to do with you or your therapy.
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That's not necessarily true, and certainly not with many psychoanalytic therapists. My Ts use transference/countertransference as a tool for therapy. The T can also learn about the patient by examining the countertransference. It can very much help them identify enactments as well, and it does have to do with the therapy.
A therapist might choose to tell a patient how they feel around them for many reasons. For one, it can help them identify patterns and provide insights about the patient's interpersonal relationship dynamics.
That my T told me he felt like rescuing me and the discussion that ensued explained a lot about my past relationship dynamics!
afterthought - Lauliza, I think you're really intelligent and really sweet and hope that you don't think i'm picking on you. It's just that I notice you make a lot of definitive, blanket statements about therapy that just are not true as you state them. I realize what you are saying might be what you are being taught and it is probably true for some therapists, but you state things as if they are facts applicable to all therapy.