I don't know if physical contact of any kind is allowed in therapy, but at times I want to be held by my therapist so badly. I just don't know if hugs are allowed and even if they are I don't know if it's a good idea or not? I'm a 30 yr old male and she's only a little bit older. I'm attracted to her. I think about her all the time. That being said, I didn't put this in the "romantic feelings" sub forums because my attraction to her is not the only motivating factor for wanting to be held by her.

I cry a lot. I'm depressed. We all have a natural human need to be held, but I have no one in my life. In my last session I had to stop and pause when we were discussing a family matter that nearly brought me to tears. At that moment I would have loved a hug, regardless of who my therapist was or what my feelings for them were. She knows how much I think about her and if I were to ask to hold her and be held by her, I'm not sure I could handle hearing NO.

On the one hand I want to be held by her because of the pain and emptiness in my life. But on the other hand, I am very attracted to her and I'm worried if we were to hug that it would only intensify my attraction to her and cause me more pain. I'm trying to weigh the pros and cons.

Are hugs allowed? Should I even bring this topic up with her?