For me, the youngest in a large family (5 kids) it could be hard to get attention of any sort? I had to learn to talk to loud, walk and eat too fast (I still have that problem with friends yelling at me to slow down :-) so some of my habits help me get the spotlight (who knows what for :-) or are just habits I picked up over the years and don't remember where they came from. Do you want to be with your family particularly? It does not sound like they are very kind to you? I'd be unconsciously avoiding by being late, putting off being where I don't want to be I guess you have to decide you "want" to be where you are going and consciously take responsibility for getting there on time?