That sometimes happens; kind of like sitting back-to-back and "pushing" until both are standing up. It requires sharing and give-and-take and wanting the other to get what they want but not giving up responsibility for your own wants (if they can help you get them, great/if they cannot help you, great). There has to be honest communication (I don't lie to my husband, even if I have done something I believe he will not like/agree with) and faith in your partner; the last word is important, true love is a partnership (as my husband will cry out to me when I am trying to push him away or am telling him when/why he's "wrong" -- "We're on the same side!" :-)