Kaliope nailed it. You know the truth. You no longer believe him because you've figured out that he's been lying. Any question you ask him about his guilt will elicit a bull-do-do answer. You would be just letting him engage you in a head game. If you were devoted enough to stand by him for 5 years, he could have gotten honest with you. He could have expressed remorse. He didn't.

I looked for an article about recidivism rate of sex offenders. The link is below. It is lower than I expected. You deserve to have the facts. Read this article, and do some research of your own. Consider the nature of the offense. Consider any associated violence. Consider the nature of his victim. Consider the nature of your relationship. It's your call. This is not easy. If it were, you would have been long out of it.

There are reasons why he is like this. They may be reasons that tug on your heart strings. But you don't owe it to anyone to spend your life paying for that person's crime. He isn't done paying yet, and you won't be either, if you are with him.

I don't think you really want to go on with him. But you are worried about him. That's nice, but try worrying about yourself. We hate to think that we have to choose between our own welfare and someone else's. Sometimes we do.

Imagine the implications of continuing in this marriage. You'll be a parole officer from here on out. You'll be monitoring his behavior. You'll get nervous, if you have a child in your home. You'll get nervous bringing him places . . . like to stay in other people's homes. You'll wonder if you should warn persons who might be potential victims of his. This is a life?

Let's say you do still love him. You probably do, at some level. No one supports a guy through 5 years of incarceration without having some serious feelings. That should not be what decides whether you stay in this marriage. The question is, "Do you want the life you will have with him?" You're already angry about giving up personal time. You'll be giving up more than that over the years ahead. All that for a man who "guilts" you? You have no obligation to sacrifice yourself on an altar for him. Let go of "I don't want to lose my marriage." Give yourself the right to make a free decision. Stay, IF that is what you really want to do . . . and only if it is.

http://www.scientificamerican.com/ar...rstood-crimes/