Hi Dashiok, you sound really harsh on yourself because naturally everyone has their good points!! Can you think of any particular circumstances/experiences that could have led to the way you're feeling about yourself??
Although I'm wondering as well whether depression may be adding to this?? Do you think?? It's easy to develop a really low/negative opinion/view about yourself if your suffering from depression, and for it to hold you back from having relationships or socializing. And with the "lazy" bit then depression can take away your enthusiasm or motivation to do things and "get out there". Maybe worth having it checked out??
But anyway, just a few reminders:
Looks can be so subjective, what one person finds attractive can be totally different from what another person finds attractive.
There is also so much more than "status" you can base self worth on e.g. your value base, honesty, genuineness, caring for others, being trustworthy. And if you're going to tell me you're not so sure how they apply I'm sure you will find other things in yourself, if you give yourself the credit you deserve.
And achievements- just for starters you have a job, not always easy to get!! But however insignificant you feel things you have managed to do/achieved in your life are, they really do matter!! Each and every one!! Look back and give yourself the recognition that is by rights yours.
Now have you tried talking to your friends about the way you're feeling, they at least have the right to try to offer you support or reassurance surely. By not telling them some of what's going on for you, you're not only selling yourself short, but them too by not giving them the opportunity to be there for you. And you don't want to do that, do you!!
And back to maybe checking out the depression angle?????
Best wishes
Alison