I was married 15 years left with out sitting down and telling him what he was doing was hurrting me .. At the time I didnt think he would care .. But he did , now we are great friends and he has told me a million times ,, He wished I would of told him, because he didnt see it.. I would of saved him , my kids and myself a lot od heart ache..
Please take the time , you already have a lot in this!!!
Good luck and god bless!!!