I think this is often the crux of the matter, to allow ourselves to consider what other people offer us-- not just T's. To be open enough to consider what another person says, and not to be so reactive that we dismiss it just because we disagree with it. To consider and then reject is better than to reject knee-jerk style. To be reflective, as you have been, rather than reactive to messages we don't like. This is the stuff of real change. I know for myself, this is one of the only ways I have been able to change.

I am headstrong, have large opinions, and tend to be stubborn. I am also very independent-minded and I don't like being told what to do. On some occasions, I have allowed my T to help me in this way, and it has made all the difference. You should celebrate.