Hi and thanks for the advice, this certainly isn't an easy situation. We have discussed it and decided to try a councilor.
I can't get upset about her telling me other guys are attractive, I did ask.
She says that she felt the spark would return after we got married but it hasn't so far. We recently began house hunting and that got her thinking if she isn't happy now and hasn't been since college y would a house change it.

I will try being hard to get, she has always said it bothers her that her family takes my side in most situations including this one. That being said she has told me n numerous family members n a doctor that I'm perfect.? Perhaps a challenge would b appropriate, if I'm perfect I'd understand why she is willing to try and work this out.
While my first thought was to take her hurtful yet honest and important words as an insult and split I know now through much discussion that this bothers her nearly as much as me. I'm continually told that her love for me is strong but she isn't sure if its as a brother or a husband.
This is no doubt going to b a long and hard road to travel and I have very little confidence that a councilor will b able to fix this, the only reason I chose to try is a gut feeling. Seeing her tears and hearing the pain in her voice leads me to believe she cares still. She apologizes daily for putting me through this and She has told me she doesn't want to lose me because I truly am her best friend but that she doesn't think its fair to either of us to live unhappy.

I hope that this is enough info that you fine folks can help some more the advice has been read and I tried to answer as many questions and reply to as many comments as I could remember. I hope this sheds a little light on things and yes we r both 24, we met in college 3.5-4 yrs ago where engaged just before 2.5 yrs and married oct. 12, 2013.

Although this probably should, it has not hurt my confidence and I know that there will be other women for me if this does not work out. As well as men for her.

My plan for now is to be slightly less cooperative and helpful to spend a little time away and to "play hard to get"/give her a challenge and be more dominant as this thought had crossed my mind already. We will see a councilor and continue to work at it until we reach a decision. I look forward to reading your input over the next couple days and thanks for putting the time and effort into reading and writing on this it's much appreciated.