we do exlpain away there behavior, but we also need to relaize when he/she wont stop ..
I was in a emiotianally abusive marriage for ten years. It took me a while to understand that walking away five years ago whould have been a whole lot better. I would not be as deperssed as i am, I would not have lost my first child and had a second one unperpared..
many things contrubite to why we stay, or why we go. No opion is stupid, you are in one right now, it is your right to defend him or not defend him. But then it is also your rigth to leave.. NO matter what he does or says. If you no longer love the guy get out.. Do not make the same mistake that I did. ok.

Dont be relucant to reply, someone else may be of help to you.. And how old are your kids. They may only be saying what "Daddie" tells them to say. If they see how bad he is without you aroudn then yes in there eyes you are a bad mom, but that is only because you did nto take them with you.. Understand from a child point of view is very very hard.. ok...

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