Now that's interesting! I have a profound need to be rescued (probably lots of different words for it too, but rescue sounds about right) but seem to make people respond in precisely the opposite way - instead of activating their rescuer part (which makes a lot of sense in regard to what I've read of your situations) I seem to inspire them to oppose and reject and push me away. Result, I get more alienated and need rescuing even more

I wonder if you're consciously aware of how you might inspire their rescuer part - what sorts of things you might have been doing that sent the 'rescue me' messages? (Lol I'm thinking I might take a leaf or two from your book.)

Sorry to sound flippant about what have been awful times for you with rescuers turning controllers, I was just interested in the dynamic that might have set up this pattern.