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Originally Posted by harvest moon
I have some friends yes, but the truth is we were really isolated from anyone while we were in this relationship. It was just the two of us and occasionally some friends, but mostly in was a very introverted relationship. I wanted all this to change, now that we would have our house and be more open to life, having our jobs and responsibilities, but it never happened. What makes me not being able to process it at all, is that he never showed the smallest doubt for us; he would look me right in the eyes and tell me I need to trust him 100% and that after so many years I should know by now that he's not going anywhere and he's sure about us and everything he says. And his behavior was that of the most caring person of the world. Till the last day. I really don't know how I will be able to trust anyone again. It hurts like I never knew I could hurt. Thank you for your kind words and I'm really sorry you had to go through something so painful as well.
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My ex was the same, she told me she loved me till the day we broke up and it came as a huge shock- I am not comparing our relationship harvest but there are a lot if similarities between our exes. Mine tried to isolate me, keep me away from family and friends so I could be all hers but once she had me she changed.
It takes a long time to be able to trust again and I still think you never really know anyone or can trust anyone only ourselves.
It hurts to trust and allow yourself to love someone and to be vulnerable around them and then to be abandoned or worse still betrayed
I suspect your self esteem has fallen now too and you are probably thinking that this other woman was more attractive ext, ext.....
This is not true, it's about him.
I notice you said you had changed lately, perhaps you are getting stronger and he couldn't handle it, or perhaps now he was working for first time he wanted to take control of things himself? Does this sound like you can relate?
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