It's good that you're both trying to work on this and workign on counseling but... I must respond to this. First off, the "i know there will be other women for me..." Get this out of your head. Either you're in the marriage and 100% given to her or you should get out. Any thoughts and protective logical thinking related to 'well if this doesn't work out.." will only serve to sabatoge your efforts, trust me. Don't be reserved in this, be fully given to getting to the root of the problem and being entirely committed or it's doomed to fail. You're already in the marriage now. At such point as you're sure you won't get her full commitment, then cross that bridge, for now, give your all to this.