I've been married 14 years, 40yo. I'm 32 weeks pregnant with our second child. I grew up in a very violent and emotionally abusive home and have PTSD. I also manage a mood disorder, most likely due to the abuse. My husband and I have gone through rough periods in which I feel disrespected and undervalued. During those times I find myself feeling emotionally needy, like I have other needs that my husband can't fulfill. My husband has a short temper, and when he gets frustrated with me complaining about something or expressing my feelings, he flips out and screams at the top of his lungs. He's only gotten physical with me a few times in our relationship, but two weeks ago he completely lost it when I expressed that he and his sister hurt my feelings. (Too long a story for here, but I'm convinced my feelings were justified.) That night he screamed, followed me up the stairs, and tore a cup of hot tea out of my hand, spilling it everywhere and making me feel threatened. After I got him to come downstairs so he wouldn't wake our 8yo son with his screaming, he picked up a chair and hurled it over his head, then picked it up again and threw it at me. I saw it coming and moved away in time. I was so scared I ran downstairs and locked the door. He kept pounding on it and screaming, saying I was crazy and I blew the chair throwing out of proportion. I didn't know what to do. I was scared he'd find a spare key and get into that section of our house. I briefly considered calling the police, but I love my husband and didn't want my son's father arrested (he could get in huge trouble for attacking a pregnant woman in our state). I finally called my neighbors. He calmed right down when they showed up. Anyway, ever since that night, I've felt very needy. I told a male friend he attacked me, I think because I needed to feel safe. He works with domestic violence victims in a legal capacity as well. But I told him too much - not specifically about the chair and the hot water, but too much. He is mutual friends with my husband and didn't want to get in the middle, but I think I really overwhelmed him these past couple weeks with emails every few days. I was afraid he might not believe me and kept going on about that. I've stopped bothering him now. I'm not normally needy like this (I don't think). Do I have some sort of problem, or is this normal after a traumatic event?