Hi, PinkPearl, welcome to PsychCentral (PC). I am concerned about your husband's behavior! I don't think you should feel safe if someone/anyone is throwing things at you and spilling hot drinks on you (and the floor where you could slip in the wet) and shouting at you! I would not worry about whether your friend believes you or not, I would go get help from your husband; I would not bring another child into a household where you do not feel safe all the time. His behavior does not have anything to do with you and your PTSD and "neediness" (I would get professional help rather than a friend/neighbor, even if they are professionals in the business); others can hear him shouting, I'm sure. Does not matter if he calms down when people come, he cannot be around you and behave that way! Make him get help or you get out. It is not you who have the problem, but him!