Hi Skeezyks, I'd say that you not only try to help other people but that you no doubt make a massive difference to people with your insight and advise!! But while it is really important to you to help people and it allows you some satisfaction it has to take a lot out of you too, sometimes taking you to places that you don't really want to be (??).
And in all of this you're sometimes forgetting the most important person- YOU!! Sure you can help people (and please don't stop trying!!) but you've really got to consider YOU a bit more, do you think? And give yourself a bit of a break.
You can't possibly be responsible for him, her, him, her, him............but if you can just help him, her, him............then that in itself is absolutely priceless!!! And you are a big asset in whatever advise/wisdom/support you give.
And the rest of your focus.......on you!!! I know it might seem the main thing that helps you in helping others but you deserve so much more too!! So maybe if you can show some more compassion/empathy to YOU it's going to be easier to let go a bit and get the help for you that you should have more oftoo.
So real good on you for posting this thread (and some of the others telling us how you're feeling!!), don't stop, we want to be there for you!!
And as for the GID-dzila I'm not so sure that you can just get it off your lap/back, but if you can nudge it just a little further to one side, bit by bit, inch by inch, slowly, slowly then gradually over time you might find yourself more free of it. While it's there though you can maybe acknowledge it but let it know that it's not going to hold you back as much as it thinks it is. OK may only work as much in your stronger moments, but every victory really does mean something and puts it that little bit more "back in it's place". And even "small" things can really count, if you can just recognize them for what they really are (massive!!!).
And of course, talk to us, tell us about it, let us try to understand and be there for you.
Probably gone on long enough, haven't I??!!
So to finish.........here for you!!!



Alison