Hi Rhapsody. Not sure you're reading me lately, but I 'll give it a go for you.

Looking from the outside, as though I would see you and not know your DX... I would just write this off as normal human emotions and reactions. We all have those aspects of us (singletons) that we don't like or don't agree with all the time thus the "I can't believe I did that, or said that!" statements from time to time.

Have you studied the shadow effect? I suppose you have.

Since you say you are both very similar, I assume you have good communication between you, in that you are now feeling "her" depression?

Confusion is often mingled with enlightenment... perhaps it is just another step to you two merging more?

Wouldn't it be ok to be depressed at times, or at least sad? And if she is holding those memories for you both, she might have reason to be sad. I wouldn't push the knowing though, and allow time and therapy to guide you.

What exactly is unnerving you about this? Is it just the not being able to be and feel whole NOW? You mention love... and loving (and the song)... maybe she is your "red flag" of warning so you aren't hurt again? I would try and communicate with her (in any fashion) that you respect her for her warnings, and ask her to continue to pay attention, but to allow you to try and test the waters... and to work out why she fears others so...

TC