Yeah, I hate it when people can't validate. In situations like these, I can't voice out my complaints of feeling invalidated because people either think I am too needy (when I am not and I am fairly objective) or they can't relate and they will downplay my concerns or they will offer tons of advice(with good intentions) to tell you to "shape up". And then I will end up hating or regretting to have expressed my feelings. And then I would end up speculating if I have expressed my concerns the wrong way or what. Then, I would also speculate if I should have just acted out my concerns dramatically to get attention, so that I can get a dignified attention - but I never try this route because I know I will regret trying to attention this way hehe