Thank you, Perna. My husband has only thrown things at me a few times over the years, but I know it's unacceptable and this past incident was terrifying. He is going to see a therapist about it, which is encouraging, but I'm afraid it's going to turn into a "my wife is difficult and crazy and that's why I flip out" scenario. (My psychopharmacologist, btw, says I'm the "designated patient," but that I'm by no means crazy.) I'll admit I was very upset and had been nagging him for a couple days because I found out he and his sister were considering not including me in the gift for my father-in-law's 75th birthday (they bought him a car). I was shocked and hurt and angry, and I was very vocal about it (but never swore or yelled or anything). My husband kept saying it was "no big deal." And when I brought the subject up again two weeks ago, telling him I felt hurt that his sister had never apologized, he just lost it. That subject will never come up again. At this point I feel I have to be careful of what I say - It's nerve-wracking. And I don't want my son ever to hear or see him act this way. It's a miracle my son slept through the whole incident two weeks ago. I know I need to make a safety plan. Only problem is the layout of our house would make it difficult to get my son out if this happened again - There's only one way up to the third floor, no alternative exits. That's why I chose not to leave the house that night. Anyway, I'm rambling. Many thanks for your support.