Thread: E-mailing T
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Old Mar 11, 2007, 06:52 PM
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Hey. I don't think there is anything wrong with your wanting to email your t and p-doc.

I also don't think that email is necessarily used to avoid. I say things by email that I simply wouldn't say face to face. Am I avoiding face to face? For sure. But opening up by email is a way for me to get up the courage to say some stuff.

I'm wondering whether the issue is that the emails become time consuming?

I'm wondering whether it might be a good idea for you to talk to them about boundaries around email contact. If that were to happen then you might be able to continue emailing. Examples of boundaries include:

- How often. Is every day okay? Every second day? Twice a week? (I'm wondering because it might be that they are too time consuming)
- What kind of a response you might be likely to get and when you are likely to get it. Acknowledgement is nice. But it might be the case that your t would prefer to discuss the emails in session rather than by email. This could be because of time constraints.

It might be that your t got a bit burned out with the frequency of them. It might also be that she felt under pressure to respond to them fairly quickly and that that was simply not feasible long term.

Of course she should have raised this issue with you well before now. But... Better late than never. How can you work within her boundaries if she doesn't let you know what they are?

Some therapists / p-docs will email. Others find it a strange request. Some don't seem to see a problem with doing it. Others do. But the change suggests that yeah something has changed. I'm sorry. This must be hard.