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Old Apr 09, 2014, 11:02 AM
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Originally Posted by monalisasmile View Post
Even if they have lied and betrayed you? I understand that most relationships can be salvaged but at what expense to yourself!

There always has to be mutual agreement that things can be put right again but if you feel that the other has caused too much intentional hurt whilst trying to empower you, see it's a double sword when the hurt comes from a therapist. The person whom is teaching us to respect ourself but then they sometimes do not respect us.

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Again, we've all been hurt. Some of those hurts are really bad. We can, as a result, be way more sensitive to subsequent hurts. No one is saying to stay in an abusive environment, but keep an open mind and an open heart. As chris said, keep intent in mind (it's not the only criteria of course, but it figures into the balance).

The ability to face hurt, absorb it, resolve it, and stay in the relationship takes courage and a whole lot of ego strength.

Therapy is a place to re-build that strength.

You absolutely can trust your therapist. In fact, you can trust them even if they don't follow through or make a mistake. They can be good enough, you just have to be open to it.
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Last edited by elliemay; Apr 09, 2014 at 11:06 AM. Reason: Took out a sentence.