Pinkpearl, are you currently seeing a therapist? It sounds to me like you might have married a man similar to your father, who has a tendency to over react and get too confrontational?

I had to first find a good therapist, then after the therapist got to know me, I had to have him sit with my husband. My husband has a tendency to "absorb" too much and get loud, and actually trigger me and make things worse for me. Some men have a really hard time when women get emotional, they can get very frustrated because they don't know how to "fix" whatever it is. They have to slowly learn that it often isn't about "fixing" as much as remaining calm and just allowing the woman to express her emotions. Throwing a chair at you is definitely not healthy, your husband can't go getting so angry that he gets physical like that which would make anyone who struggles with PTSD from your kind of history to run and feel threatened.

Wouldn't it have been so much better if your husband remained "calm" and came up to you and hugged you in an understanding way? Verses him getting so upset and physical like he did. Unfortunately, no one has ever taught him "how" to respond in a way that reduces the emotions and is better/healthier for the relationship.

OE