I would agree if the attraction had been lost for a few short months but it's been 2-3 years she claims.

So far the playing hard to get hasn't worked, I guess if there's no attraction there's no desire there's nothing to "get".

As for mixing it up, I'd entertain this idea, however, she says sex with me is weird and almost like doing it with her brother. (Idk how she knows that feeling lol) she also isn't willing to discuss sex and therefor makes that a very difficult subject to reach an agreement on.

I've come to realize as long as she is not willing to discuss sex with me and until she has more answers that don't include the words "I don't know" this is going to be a very difficult issue to get through. I've come to terms with it as of now I feel like there's nothing I can do but "sit on the bench and watch the game". At least until we get to the councilor.

I plan to ask the councilor what a separation period would do for our relationship among other things:
-Did my laid back personality contribute to this?
(I never ever get worked up or jealous and perhaps that persuaded her to subconsciously bond with me more as a brother or a friend)
-are these issues, issues that are commonly fixed?
-how do I forgive/forget the things she said if we can work this out
-will these issues likely reoccur if we stay together
-could this be the result of living isolated from friends and family for two years and being the only source of companionship for one another (we did things as friends and as husband and wife)
-is this likely the result of me/my personality being too boring since I don't "do" drama? ((I have never in my life been in a fight, I was stopped by some friends in a locker room and my cousin a couple other times) I only say this to make the point that I'm not a ***** that lets people walk on me possibly causing this issue through lack of masculinity)
-have we simply grown apart and married too young and as we matured our personalities changed to create two incompatible people?

I have my doubts that she is committed as she continues to remind me that she feels counciling will not be effective. The thought has crossed my mind that perhaps I was used to get through a time when she knew for a fact that she was going to struggle and stayed quiet for fear of me walking out and leaving her isolated from friends and family alone, although I can't see why she would have entertained the idea if purchasing a house, we went as far as getting pre-approved. Another ponderous thought that crossed my mind is, perhaps she is only "trying" for 2 months to make it look good, she has always had a concern for what others thought as well as a need for companionship. Me on the other hand I could live on a mountain and see no one for months at a time and not care about what I look like. I do a good job of keeping my appearance up for her, when I delivered farm equipment I was asked/given phone numbers half a dozen times in 14 months.

All in all I know is I can't let this weigh on me too heavily, as it stands right now I can't fix it on my own. I seriously doubt that I'll be able to fix it at all with the body language and things she is saying. However, I am still hoping for the best and preparing/expecting the worst.

I certainly appreciate your time and thoughts as this is a very tough time. Your compliments are motivating and your advice sound. Your words have opened my mind and allowed me to think and speculate many different angles of this situation. While I doubt I can find a solution this has been a learning experience. Once again thank you. I'll keep posting as things arise in hopes that someone will continue to offer diverse views to keep my mind from getting tunnel vision.