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Originally Posted by KatiePillar
If the other person is truly interested in making you feel loved, he/she will make the effort.
He seems like an airhead. Not as an offensive thing, but he seems to forget. He's getting what he wants, and probably forgets you in the process.
Mine is touch. And when I don't get that from my partner, I do feel neglected and unloved.
Regardless of weather or not they do.
You really need to tell him this. When you don't get what you translate into love, you feel unloved.
Tell him, if I were to go away, or not want to be around you, wouldn't you feel unloved?
He should say yes.
So from there, tell him when he doesn't touch you much, or lets you know verbally, it's the same feeling.
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Katie,
Very well said. I like your phrase "When you don't get what you translate into love, you feel unloved. "
I believe that we all need some kind of input like touch, words, sex, etc. as fuel for our own self love and ultimately the love we give back to our partners. Some people are more needy, some people only need a single "I love you" in a day. But take away this fuel or contaminate it, and our "love engines" stall or die.
I too am a touch/small words person. I don't need long hugs, french kisses, gifts, sex, etc. to feel loved. But I do need those basic inputs each day. Is it hard to say "I love you too"? Or get a small peck on the cheek without turning away? For my wife, after 17+ years she doesn't provide this fuel. She doesn't respond even in these basic ways, and when I pursue her for them, she gets annoyed. Why should anyone get annoyed at receiving or expressing love?