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Old Jul 29, 2004, 03:04 PM
Zenobia Zenobia is offline
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Excuse the bitterness in my post for just a sec, it isn't directed at you, your love for your sister is obvious. It just drives me nuts when people say that people injure themselves to get attention. Well DUH! Of course it is to get attention. It is like a cat peeing in the corner of the living room when normally she would go in her litter box. The cat goes in the corner too get attention because something is wrong. It is the same with self injury. Something is definately wrong that needs attention. Sometimes it is the self-injurer who is trying to get her own attention, to wake up and move on. This is a secretive act that many people will never know about. Sometimes it is the to get the attention of other people because the self-injurer can't cope with her pain on her own and needs others to help her. It makes me sad that this second group is accused of "Just trying to get attention". Of course she is but it is obvious that something is dreadfully wrong and should be addressed.

It sounds like you are already doing what you can do. You are giving her your support by listening. You are showing her your concern and a place to be to get away. You are being a good sister. I know it is hard to see her going through this and not be able to do more to help her but it is really up to her to take your support and comfort and use it to get better. You sound very concerned about her safety. I would suggest that you call her therapist and let him know your concerns. He can't tell you anything but letting him know what is going on will help him help her. The only problem with this is that your sister may get furious at you and life could get uncomfortable. In the end she will be most likely be thankful but at this point she will probably tear into you and blame you. Most important thing is that you take care of yourself and don't allow yourself to get TOO wrapped up in her problems. That will make your work more difficult and you may start resenting her which isn't good either. know she is taking steps to get better. You said she is seeing a therapist and getting on meds. Trust in that effort.
Carrie

<font color=blue>If you have two dollars, spend one on bread and the other on flowers. The bread will feed your body and the flowers will feed your soul."--Arabic Saying