I admit I'm not perfect but I feel I try more that my wife. I get "dismissed" when I ask for hug. When I try to give her a kiss on the lips, she purposely turns her head at the last moment. It's not for fun, she's not doing it as a joke, she just doesn't want a kiss.

It's funny because after a therapy session my wife told me that she doesn't want to go anymore. She said she's explained what needs to be done, there's no more reason to go. I've been told that I need to be a "man", but being bisexual I feel I'm more comfortable in the role of the "woman" (no I'm not trans, I just want to be submissive). She says that I need to romance her. She can't tell me what she wants or expects, so how can she know if she gets it.

My wife told me to read books or research on the web. I've found hundreds of sites dedicated to "re-romancing". The odd thing is that I already do most of the things already that people recommend. I open doors for her all the time, I cook dinner 3 to 4 times a week, I listen to her and talk to her about her, I touch her frequently, I send her messages/call her from during the day to tell her I think about her, I tell her I love her and she's beautiful regularly, I surprise her with gifts or flowers. None of these seem to make her satisfied, and many times I'm told to stop because she is overwhelmed. So I stop, then she says I don't show her affection anymore...

How can she ever determine if she is happy?