I'm not sure how this has been turned into a gender related situation wtf does it have to do with you being a woman? If he's not giving you the same consideration it has absolutely zero to do with you being a woman and his excuse would not be because he's a guy. That just means he's not doing what you expect him to and a female in a relationship as often as males can be just as unresponsive. I don't like that you made this about him being a guy. at all.

Really? this is the epitome of what is wrong with relationshps and marriages today it screams of the conditional attitude that "if you don't give me what I want, if you don't make me happy, I'll find someone else" and I find it far too often that people think this way.

Personally if I marry someone my thoughts are to give to her and support her and share in my life not "what can she do for me." it's just going to be a path that's wrought with failure b/c there is no woman that will meet all of my expectations and needs all of the time.

You have very conditional thinking here and everything you seem to do "for him" seems to have tied to it what he "should" be giving back to you in return. Love doesn't expect a return on it's investment it hopes to give to the other person, period. What we receive in return is nice but should never be the reason we love someone or are with them.