What do you do,when there is a stagnation in the relationship? To be specific,when two are married for many years,have kids,gone through rough long period and suddenly realize,that they mostly are companions,not spouses.There is no satisfaction from relationship,intimacy,expectations are shattered.One used to live with the hope and some expectations from the spouse,just to feel hurt from being "wrong"one,warmth and trust become elusive .To be fair,spouse feels the coldness also,which he does not welcome,but at this point,after loosing faith in relationship,one has difficulty and even no desire to work anymore on relationship,as it is always unilateral effort.One does respect the spouse ,but has no idea what else to do,when just the thought of one day worth of happiness warmth the soul..It is easy to destroy the family,harder to keep.How do you find the faith ,trust and hope again?