This has been an on-going problem for a couple years and it needs to be addressed.

I believe my fiance has a disorder but what it is, I don't know. It could be bipolar or something like it. Can't say for sure as I am not a professional in this area.

All I can do is give examples of some of things he does. The latest episode occurred this past Thursday. He left work around 8:30 AM to head to a doctor's appt. Nothing serious, had to have a few skin lesions looked at. Enroute to the appt. he called me. I wished him well and he said he would call me when he was finished.

Well, he did call me. The problem was I was on a conference call and could not take his call. The call went to my voice mail. I was at work and the conference call was job related. I couldn't just place everyone on hold to take his call. My conference called ended 30 minutes after he called. I sent my fiance a text message inquiring how the appt. went & he responded with a few short, snippy responses. Later in the afternoon, I find out from him that he's just steaming because I couldn't take his call when he finished with the doctor. His rationale is that if he was an important to me as I say he is, I would have taken his call.

I believe he is being absurd, of course I didn't tell him this, I explained I was involved in a conference call and that I got back to him as soon as I could. I did tell him that I was doing my job and that his expectations were unrealistic.

He is so mad over this, he refuses to talk to me. We live together. If I enter a room he is in, he leaves. If someone stops over, he puts on an act and pretends that everything is all right. Once the comany leaves, he's back to his usual silent treatment. This morning when I dropped him off, I told him to have a great day. He accused me of being cynical towards him which has further prompted him to send nasty text messages to me.

The problem is that I get so frustrated over his behavior that I get upset. I get upset to the point where after trying to rationalize with him, I lose my composure and raise my voice. I raise my voice out of frustration. No matter what I say or how I say it, he finds fault. He takes everything I say out of context and uses it against me. If I tell him I was on a conference call, he says "I see, I wasn't important enough to talk to." Then he'll say he was a a$$hole for believing in me.

I'm really at my wits end over his behavior. It's almost like he enjoys picking fights over things that anyone else wouldn't give a second thought. I also should emphasize we have never had a physical altercation. It's always verbal and it always escalates to the point where I cannot take anymore of his rationalizing why he's the way he is. I have given him no reason to distrust me.

We are both divorced, we both have grown children. He has no relationship with his own children and I have wonderful relationship with my child.

I don't know what to make of his behavior and if I suggest he seek counseling, that just sends him over the edge.

Any suggestions?