Hmm... it's one thing having a plaque in the kitchen to reassure oneself that there's no normal.

But theory and practice are two different things. I wouldn't try going up to a woman in a bar and opening with, "Hey, I usually avoid social situations like this, due to an exaggerated sense of self awareness coupled with an irrational fear of rejection. Can I buy you a drink?"

What is normal? In this context, normal would be taken to mean someone without avoidant or any other personality disorder, who is able to relate to others and have the kind of social relationships that non-afflicted people have. The type of person whom the majority of the population, which does not have avoidant personality disorder, seeks.