Hi Rhap, before I know how to answer you because this is a tough one, can I also ask, are there any "unnerving" qualities you wish to deal with, with this alter? I guess what I'm asking is, you have mentioned in the post that you may well have to accept/deal with this alter not leaving, so if that is indeed true, are you sruggling with that specifically? Or are their traits in this alter you would not like?

You are having me think here.......