I can't tell you how to set yourself free from the 'hook', but i just wanted you to know that your not alone. You don't look stupid. I get it. I have issues with my mom as well and can't let go b/c she (and my grandma) raised me & I'm her only child. I feel like I personally need to forgive and let go, but it's difficult. And I'm not necessarily saying that you should or shouldn't, it depends on the situation...

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