Just to let anyone know I'm putting this thread here because this is where I'm comfortable right now. So please don't move it somewhere else.

Well anyways. My mother called to let me know she has surgery scheduled for this friday. She's having a tumor removed from the back of her neck. It's like at the base of her head/ top of her neck and the size of a golfball. I don't know if it's because I've been through so much dealing with my brothers cancer. That I'm just in a I don't care mood about it all or if it's the fact of her being an abuser and the lack of protection from her that I'm just not as close to her?? I'm just not real sure. She's looking for support from me and I just don't want to deal with her. She has the surgery friday and I'm affraid I'll have to be there since I'm the closest relative to her. My brother lives close, but with his own illness isn't in a position to help much. She has a live in boyfriend that she said will take her. But he's not any relation to her and can't make decisions for her if needed. I don't want to deal with her right now.