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Originally Posted by berkut
It seems to me that you have to take care of you here. He made his alcoholism your responsibility- but you could never, never fight it for him. It's just impossible. I'm glad you're here, and I'd like to suggest that you hook up with your local Al-Anon, as well as spending time here. Support and education will be invaluable, even if the relationship is over. Addictions come with certain relationship patterns, and when you can see those patterns you can learn to see yourself and the traits that brought you here in a wiser light.
*hugs* I can't imagine how painful this is for you, and I want you to know that you're not alone. You're not wrong, and you're not alone.
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Thank you so much. That is the thought process I used to break up with him. That I needed to take care of me and that I can't fight it for him. But once reality set in, I think I just went into a fearful mode of now I'm alone and I'm afraid to be alone and I totally freaked myself out.
I think Al-Anon is a good idea. I have thought of it on my own but felt intimidated by the thought of actually joining. But when I'm honest with myself I am desperate for some support and education, especially from people who know exactly what I'm going through.
Thank you so much for taking the time to write a response, and for being so supportive. I am feeling more stable now, and your words were very kind and non-judgmental. Being a highly sensitive person I appreciate that immensely.