I hear ya. My mother tells her friends im "slow". Im a member of mensa for cripes sake. What the heck is that about? I guess im not successful enough for her. When i was working at a major university ( and my brother was "only" self-employed), they could not have been less unsupportive, whining and scheduling family functions when i had to work a rare but essential weekend. Total target control. How could i be so stupid?