I feel grammar, spelling, and how a person expresses themselves in writing is part of that person's experience and how I respond to a person is my issue (my pet peeve is people who don't break long posts into paragraphs but just have a solid block of text :-) I was a grammar nazi here until 15-20 or so years ago when I realized why I was being a grammar nazi and then I stopped because I did not need that for myself anymore.