First off I would like to thank you all for being so helpful and sympathetic. I also would like to update this story. This all came about because of a letter that my aunt wrote to me and my wife. She said that we were pigs because our house wasn't clean enough for her. I have two children who drop dirt and toys from their pockets and it becomes harded every year to keep up. Anyway I though it would be good for me to write her back, of course because of my all or nothing mentality it was a very scathing letter. You know the type, you are dead to me and something about choking back bile when I had to be nice to them. And those werethe parts I feel comfortable telling you about. The main reasons I wished to give her this letter was to deliver a definite knock out blow. I made the mistake of reading it to my mother (her sister is the aunt in question),and she came to me a day later and offered to buy me a car ( a cheap one for comuting) not to give her the letter or at least to edit the hell out of it. I did actually did have to think about it for a couple of days but a car is a car and I get to write a PG version of the letter anyway. Again thank you all.