I had that from my mother too and ex husband. I didn't realize at the time but they are very toxic people. It's hard to not fall into their trap. These people are so good at what they do. My mother, i am able to avoid. But ex is more difficult. Especially when you are expected to "co-parent" with ugly people like these. My girls and I are in therapy. Just a year ago he was still hurting us. I don't understand why if he was doing this why he gets to still have parental rights. I wish he would dissapear sometimes.