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Originally Posted by rouge198
I moved to another state for a job, my anxiety has increased and I'm preparing to take a leave of absence due to this and the job just not being a good fit. As a result I've withdrawn from my closest friend here and other ppl associated with my job, but they keep asking me to hang out.
I'm hoping not to tip them off to my plans of taking leave or looking like I personally dislike them. I just go inward at times like this and the job is their life focus so hanging with them feels like working on free time.
I'm tired of making up reasons that I am unavailable to meet up only for them to keep trying to reschedule.
How do I politely tell them that I don't want to hang out, permanently?
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Maybe try, "I'm sorry, but going forward, I won't be available to hang out with you guys. I have personal business to attend to, but as soon as my schedule lightens, I'll look forward to doing so again."
It's only a little white lie (looking forward to doing so again) and by using the words 'going forward' it sounds more professional (inclining the receiver of this news that you haven't found better friends to hang with) and 'personal' implying that questions regarding it would be unwelcome. And smile regretfully.
If they don't get the hint and do ask what the 'personal business' is, just repeat, over and over...'I'm sorry, but it can't be helped.' And keep smiling whilst saying it.
I think it would pass muster with Miss Manners, and it's worked quite well for me in the past. Just remember to smile regretfully.
Take care
