It takes a lot of time to get over so much. I have a lot more time to think about everything with myself, too. It's harder when you have kids with someone who hurt you. I am still fighting that life. It's very hard. I want him out of my life, but it's impossible because of the kids. I think that you do pity yourself. I think I do it, too. I think it's like separating ourselves from the hurt in a way. To keep ourselves from hurting, we want to shield and protect those we love from the hurt that we already feel. Only time, therapy and our dedication to doing better will help get over this. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{itsjustme}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}