Hi wife22, these bits: "frequent expression of my inadequacy according to him", "convinced that it is my problem and my behavior which is inappropriate, since I don't think and react like him". Seems to me that there's a lack of respect there!!
People aren't going to agree with each other all the time, and sometimes they can get frustrated/irritated by things but this certainly seems a big step on from that.
Now looking at your marriage again would you say that there's emotional abuse there?
What you've said is certainly throwing some warning signs my way.
Now, do you really want to pursue the marriage?
If your answers "yes" and you think there's a chance you could lay things on the line for him inc. how you're feeling, and negotiate some kind of counseling with him, and if there's a chance it might help, (or if just talking between you would help!!) then fine. But if not, is this what you really want from marriage/from life??!!
Alison