I understand you now. That's very true.

As per the psychologist thing, I think that you do have to have some level of professional detachment to be a psychologist. Why is it fair to burden a psychologist with all that suffering. My psychologist reflects about what I have told him when I am not there but he can't spend every moment thinking and worrying about me. He has his own problems and worries and life to think about. Especially, if he had a lot of patients to deal with he would burn out pretty fast. I disagree with you on that but I must say that I find value in you questioning the practice. In any case, the therapeutic relationship is kind of a model for ones relationship with the world. For example, you are probably not always thinking about the people in your life when you are busy at work and they are not there. That's the nature of the world, the world is present with you in the moment, love comes and goes.

In any case, the therapeutic relationship is not supposed to be a friendship even though it sometimes feels that way. I myself have to remind myself that it is a professional relationship, it is something that helps you deal with real relationships. Anything more than that and you are fooling yourself. Its not a buddy-buddy thing. He/she is a professional who is helping you to learn to deal on your own.

In addition, I don't think I should have to suffer for other people.