I am reluctant to bring up counseling or therapy issue,because I am don't know how he would react,though I do realize,there is no way to know and nothing to loose,but try...it's just I am tired of being told I'm wrong.For very long time I was trying to keep things up,swallowing the pain and pacifying the situation,this is not what I imagined marriage to be:I wanted friend,protector,lover as a husband....but reality was and is different.Every time I try to work thing out,I give as much as I can,he take is as granted without return.THe question is, is he really attracted to me,does he really love me, when he says he needs to tell me what to do,whom to talk,how to behave.I want out of this ,I want to feel myself,but I don't want to be easy quitter,if it makes sense.Hence,the confusion and the feeling of being stuck.