That could be true, but I hope that it's not. I don't think that is really the case though as why would anyone actually spend what little free time they have with someone that they no longer liked that much? It makes no sense. She didn't have to agree to go to the movies with me if she is doing the slow fade or trying to end the friendship. I guess I'll be able to tell what's going on more later this afternoon.

I forgot to mention this, but she was going through a few rough patches this past year, so this is why I put off asking her about things for awhile. I had no idea that she was having issues until I met her in person, so perhaps this might be what is going on again? Also, she also takes anti-depressants, but she might not be taking them anymore, and that might cause some mood changes? I'm not sure if she's on anything new now or if she stopped. Could that affect one's behavior?

As for her not being one for confrontation, I think that she is fairly honest and direct, so I can't see that happening unless of course she doesn't want to hurt my feelings since she knows that I'm kind of sensitive. Also, we have NEVER ever had any fight before!

There was only this ONE time over a year ago to where she got irritated with me for using bad language in her work email. She made it clear in a firm but nice enough email to not email her at work, especially when I use cuss words as emails are monitored and that could get her fired. So she gave me her personal email instead. She didn't contact me for a few weeks after that although I apologized about things. That was our one and ONLY "fight" if you can even call it that.

Anyways, I have always been a good friend to her, so why would anyone want to dump a good friend who is nice, loyal, caring, sweet, and who remembers to wish them a Happy B-day, A Merry Christmas, and to get them gifts, a call, or an e-card during those times? Most people think that I'm a nice person.

Also, we've always have fun together and always end up laughing about something. Like I said before, I have stopped talking about most of my major problems most of the time these days, so if she was going to dump me as a friend, I'd think she'd have done it a long time ago.

As for your suggestion about getting together early with friends who are always running late, that's a great idea! I actually thought of that no to long ago! I don't believe in being passive-aggressive as that usually back fires, especially when the other person thinks that you're being that way to get back at them or to teach them a lesson.

So I'd much rather be direct with people and find out what the issue is and try to fix it instead of playing stupid mind games that could ultimately weaken the friendship and cause people to get upset with me. It doesn't resolve bad behavior issues either IMHO. I think honest and open communication can though with mature, open, and empathetic adults who are willing to work on their faults.

Anyways, sorry to hear about your friend- It sucks when people dump you that way. It hurts the most as you never know what went wrong and if it was something that you did or said that made them not want to talk to you anymore- I've had that happen to me a few times, so I know what you're going through all to well!

I sure am nervous about having this talk with her later. I hope that she'll understand where I'm coming from and not offer me any lame excuses or get defensive. Chances are good that she'll listen to me and perhaps even make a few changes. If she doesn't, then I'll know where I stand with her for sure. If things don't go that well, then I'll back off and wait for her to contact me next like my best friend said.

The only thing that I can think of as to why she is acting like this is because she got lazy and is not as good at initiating plans as I first thought. Some people are like that. Or it is also possible that she wants to spend less time with me, or she has gotten to be to busy to hang out with me as much as she used to, especially now that she has a new b.f who she is in love with. She has only started dating him for two or three months so far though.

Whatever happens, I'll be more at peace getting a few answers. I'll be sure to pay attention to her tone and body language and be able to get a lot of answers that way as well. I hope that everything goes well today!